What happens after an IVF cycle? What is the after party like if the outcome is good? And what if it is bad?
Last night we delivered some home baked goods to a family we go to church with. They are on the opposite end of the fertility pool, their first 3 kids are all 12-14 months apart, 6 kids total. Most of their kids have left the nest, only have two left at home. She has been good about asking questions about IVF and what a cycle will entail for me. Well last night she asked me for an update since it had been about a month since we had last spoken about it. The she asked about the after party. "What is the after party like if we don't get good news?"
I was at a loss. What is it like? Will I want company? Will I want support from all my very fertile friends who have no clue what it is like to shell out $15k just to have the possibility of getting pregnant? Will I even want to get out of bed?
The truth is, and what I told her, is I don't know. IF is hard to accept when you try cycle after cycle naturally and nothing happens... but what about the cycles where you have thousands invested, countless hours of monitoring, tons of hormones, and still the outcome is the same?
I don't know the answer to any of these questions, and to be honest I haven't really thought about the outcome being negative. My hope and prayer is that we will be a one shot success story, and for now that's where my focus lies. Staying on the "it will work" side is where I want to be.
What was your after party like?