Thursday, July 30, 2009

Seeing green

Do you ever see green?

I know I do when I see a pregnant woman or a mother holding a newborn. But over the coarse of the last year or so I have learned a lot about envy. I know we have heard a million times how it is poisonous. How it can kill any relationship. Well now I am finally starting to really get it.
DH and I do ok financially. We have good jobs and both work full-time. We have been savers from the get-go and have been able to afford things other cannot simply by not living paycheck to paycheck. We recently purchased a new home. Well now it seems we are surrounded by envy. We got a great deal and are paying a fraction of what we were paying for our old mortgage. (And this new house is more than twice its size. Gotta love the California home market.) My best friend is perhaps the most envious of our new digs. It has really put a strain on our relationship. When she says something about how jealous she is of our new house I quickly point out that she does have 4 beautiful children and I would trade her. But is that really the way to continue a friendship. We have a new couch but you can get pregnant any time you want. Have any of you experienced similar situations with friends or family?


  1. I do struggle with feeling envious of friends who have conceived easily. However, I haven't experienced anything quite as overt as what you have with your friend. It is difficult to remember that everything is a gift from God!

  2. Yes, Yes and Yes! I totally feel that way - especially with my fertile neighbors and coworkers. Stuff doesn't mean anything in the greater scheme of life ... babies mean much more. But, in the meantime, while we're TTC, we might as well spend a little...

    Keep your chin up! There will always be something to be a little envious about with others. I guess that's life...but it does suck sometiems!

    Take care - love your blog!

  3. Oh my yes! One of my closest friends and the only IRL friend who reads my blog still envies us for our London flat, foreign holidays and even - get this - the money to pay for our fertility treaments. Even though I would swap all of this in a heartbeat for a child like his lovely son. I just don't get it!

  4. As they say a house is bricks and mortar but a child is flesh and blood, part of you that you have nurtured ... wanting a child is completely different to wanting a house!

    I've only just read some of your blog after following the link from a friends blog.

    Both you and her are inspirations to me :) and make me want to be the best Mum I can for my little girl because I know I am one of the lucky ones to have her!

    Keep Blogging and I'll add yours to my list. I hope your journey results in the child that you and your husband want so badly.

    Thinking of you both.