Thursday, June 11, 2009

Our Story

My wonderful husband and I met in May of 2002. We were introduced by a mutual friend at a church party for young single adults. We started dating in June and were engaged Christmas Eve of that year. I for one knew I was going to marry DH from very early on. One of the many things I was attracted to was his love for children. He had 7 nieces and nephews when we wed and all of them adored DH. We were married and decided to wait to have children until DH was done with his degree. A year later we had a “woopsie” moment, and I was sure I was preggo. I had been off bcp since January of 2004 and never missed a period. AF was 7 days late. When she came I was relived, but at that moment knew mother was the next title I wanted to add to my life. We waited until October of that year and started really trying. In January I had a 50 day cycle! I went in to see my OBGYN on day 42 and insisted she do a blood test to be sure I wasn’t pregnant. From then on I watched as friend after friend started their family. I switched OB’s in June and my ne OB ran some test and put me on Clomid. I did three cycles all with BFN at the end. DH was sure he was the reason we couldn’t get that illusive BFP. I talked to my OB who told me it “only takes one” sperm. HA! I had an HSG done, tubes were clear, laparoscopy, stage 1 endo, but nothing to be worried about. We decided to take a break and “just relax” since that is how my sister’s, best friend’s, sister got pregnant after 18 months of trying and was no pregnant with her 3rd. DH graduated in December 2005 we moved and he finally got medical insurance through work. So we decided to finally get him tested. In August of 2006 we learned that we had severe MF IF. DH had 1 million little swimmers and less than 10% motility. Eek! I went in for my annual with my then beloved OB and told him what thCheck Spellinge Urologist said. “Really it only takes one little guy,” was his reply. We went back to the urologist who wanted to do a vericocele repair to see if that would help. No such luck. IVF would be our only option. We have been saving and waiting since then. Unfortunately out here in CA infertility is rarely covered by insurance. We finally set up a consult with an RE an hour away in January 2009. He ran a few tests and I was given the all clear, great hormone levels excellent egg reserve, all the things you want to hear. DH’s counts on the other hand were lower than ever, so low the lab didn’t number his swimmers. Our RE said IVF with ICSI was our only option. We decided to move ahead with the March cycle. Our 1st appointment was February 17th to get our schedule and payment terms all lined out. DH was laid off February 13th. I was devastated. He hated his job, so it was a blessing, but there went our March cycle. He finally just a job offer last week and starts June 15th. We hope to start cycling in October or November this year, but now are not sure the RE we originally met with is who we want to be treated by. Oh what a pickle.

7 comments:

  1. I'm so sorry you've had to face these setbacks, especially now that you know what you need to do to become parents. I hope the new job goes well for your DH and that you're soon ready to take the next step.

    Welcome to the blogosphere! I hope you find comfort here.

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  2. Here from LFCA to say welcome. I hope you find some solace and comfort in this blogging community. There are tons a great people here.

    I just have a few comments. Shame on your Ob for putting you through a series of tests before testing your DH. And shame on him/her for saying it takes just one. Although we know that is the truth, it's much more complicated than that.

    I hope the next few months go quickly for you. Hang in there!

    -S4S

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  3. Here from LFCA to say welcome. My husband (E) has anejaculation plus after effects of torsion of the testicle. I hope that you can find solace in this community. I invite you to head over to my blog to find some other girls who are on the same path.

    Hugs to you.

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  4. Also here from LFCA. Welcome to blogging...from another one who understands. We are in a similar pickle.

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  5. Welcome to blogging! Here from LFCA :)

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  6. What a great post. I think this is a hard one for everybody, having to squeeze so much personal and heart breaking information into a single post. You did a great job.

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  7. Here from LFCA to welcome you! I'm sorry you have to be here :( We're in CA with MFI, too. It's rough.

    makingmemom.blogspot.com

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